Gifts in Rejection
The feelings arising from being refused, unaccepted, dismissed or even simply unacknowledged usually make us feel imperfect, unworthy and small. It may even trigger feelings of abandonment. Yet, there are many a gift and blessing to be found in rejection, a few of which include: freedom; self-acceptance; and trusting the flow of life.
In any relationship situation, whether personal or professional, your acceptance or not is usually dependent upon the judgements and perceptions of another human being toward you. I say ‘human being’ ‘cos we often tend to place the value of the person doing the rejecting at a higher level than we value ourselves. Yet yes, he / she too is human.
Equally so, every person / organization has preferences and needs. These are most probably based on their own past experiences, as well as on their current desires and needs. Should you not fit into their plans, accept it with contentment for what it is; in the knowledge and trust that both you and the other party will find a match.
After all, you want to be wanted, needed, valued and loved for all that ‘you’ are, right? If you’re not that fit for somebody, allow them to move on to their fit. Your own fit definitely exists and is more wonderful than you currently imagine. He / she / they will love, accept, value and adore you (mostly) for all that you are, as you are – and you will know it and feel it.
In the interim, embrace the glorious feelings of lightness and abandonment which can blossom and bloom from rejection. A definite positive is that you now know where you stand. Bid farewell to simmering in uncertainty or to waiting on the approval of another.
Focus. On yourself. Create your own path. You may choose to change something learned from your experience, or you may simply move forward with accepting yourself wholly and fully for all of the Spirit-created wonder which you are. The choice and decision is completely yours – to move forward in freedom from this point onward.
Your rejection by someone is not a reflection of your value or your worth. Neither is it a reflection of your lovability.
Nothing external (mistakes made, shortcomings, foibles) changes the being that you are. Everyone is on a learning path. It’s a continual process of growth and evolution. And regardless of how ‘perfect’ another may seem to be, know that he / she is no more ‘perfect’ than you yourself are. Just as you don’t know their full story, so too, they don’t know your full story.
You’re the writer of your own story. Take the lead, be the lead and script your story your way. Generously include all of the awesomeness and magnificence which is already you!
You’re lovable. You’re so very valuable. Perfectly as you are. Yes, in all of your imperfections and humanness. It’s up to ‘you’ to accept you: in your heart, in your mind, at your core.
Embrace yourself; in joy, in confidence, in love. Shine.
Trusting the Flow:
When rejected, trust that it’s okay. And that it’s most possibly even a part of the Greater Plan for your life, which you cannot clearly see at this moment in time.
Life is about change, this too shall pass.
Hold on to the best in yourself; let all else go.
Flow with the current of the river, allow it to guide and carry you; battle not against it. Surely, in its Greater Natural Wisdom, it will carry you to a space and to a place which is optimally peaceful, happy and fulfilling for you.
When you glance back upon your life later down the line, trust that perfection is what you will see and feel 😌