Opinions and judgments of others’ will always be there. Be they communicated to you directly or indirectly, by a look or an expression, or even by way of you being the subject of some type of formal ‘assessment’, know that these are the perceptions of another human being. Who, after-all, has the authority to decide whether something is ‘acceptable’ / ‘valuable’ / ‘favorable’ / ‘good’ / ‘nice’, ‘of worth’ or not? Not only is this ever-changing and subjective, but it’s also time and context-dependent.
• Opinions & Judgements of Others:
Every individual sees the same thing differently. Every individual feels differently about a specific thing. Every individual takes a different message from a common message communicated.
The interpretation and experience of each person varies. People filter and interpret information based upon their own experiences, beliefs, values, wants, desires and needs.
Therefore, it only makes sense that people will have different opinions of you / a thing. A person’s judgement of something / you is not solely about you, it’s also about the person doing the judging and what’s going on in his / her world.
So, smile and be happy regardless of what another thinks of you / how another views you / the manner in which a person chooses to interpret your communications or actions.
Know in your awareness that each person’s reality is different! And therefore it’s okay for a person to feel toward you the way they do / to think of you the way they do / to take from your message / action precisely what they do.
• Security in Yourself:
Nobody knows you as profoundly as you yourself do. (And if you don’t know yourself as well as you should, then you open yourself up to others’ telling you who you are – which is possibly who they would like you to be).
Your life is unique, based upon your own experiences, choices, values, beliefs, desires and dreams.
Once you know exactly who you are, you’re able to smile and settle into knowing that you’re the ultimate judge in your life, regardless of any other opinion / judgement. There is great power there.
The key is being true to your authentic self. And in being true to your authentic self, you value yourself for all that you are; you love yourself for all that you are; you take joy and pleasure in being, sharing and expressing all that you magnificently are!
It’s a great time to start upgrading your opinion of yourself and passing wholesome, loving, kind, forgiving judgments of yourself, is it not?