Do you long to live and thrive in happiness more often? What’s holding you back? Possibly some of the things which you have in your life, rather than things you don’t have? By assessing your current space and determining your ‘nice’-space / your optimal-space, you have the power to choose whether letting go will feed your happiness.
- Assess your Current Space:
What sorts of thoughts, feelings, situations and experiences are you predominantly keeping for company these days?
Freedom, lightness, joy, living-in-the-moment? A passion for life? A sense of fulfilment, peace and calm? Love, trust, faith, inner quiet, knowingness and serenity? Are you primarily maintaining these thoughts, feelings and outlooks regardless of the circumstances, situations and experiences which come your way?
Or might you perhaps be leaning primarily toward anxiety, fear, anger, disappointment, sadness, doubt, envy, jealousy? Rejection? Hurt? Pain? Doubt? Uncertainty? Betrayal? Judgement? Worthlessness? Guilt?
Are you perhaps being weighed down by the burden of a secret? Insecurity? Loneliness? Tension? Stress? A need to be perfect? The approval of another? Responsibility that isn’t yours to bear? Being caged in preconceptions? Drama? A mistake made? The past? The future (in your ‘waiting’)?
Your status? Your position? Your title? Your salary?
Are you holding on to a gorgeous pair of shoes that pinch at your little-toe with every step you take? A luxurious coat which you haven’t worn in years ‘cos there hasn’t been a ‘special’ enough occasion to wear it to yet?
- Determine your ‘Nice’-Space:
With contemplation and an enhanced awareness of the types of thoughts and feelings you predominantly experience, comes your power to choose what type of space you would actually like to be in.
Your thoughts may be random and may also often be based upon subconscious influences, true. Yet it is you who ultimately commands the power and free-will choice of what you hold on to and what you let go of on a conscious level.
By nature’s law, that which you choose to focus on is usually strengthened, while that which you diminish significance toward slackens its power to influence you.
What do you want to strengthen and grow in your life? Your happiness and your freedom? Perhaps your trust and your faith? Peace and calm? If so, that’s where you would do best focusing your attention.
Let the worry and anxiety go; ease up on the doubt (particularly on the self-doubt); and stay clear of the path of being swept up in, or contributing to, chaos and clutter.
Keep in mind that situations and circumstances can change in an instant by factors either within or beyond your control – both whether you choose to hold on to things or whether you choose to let go.
Yet now that you know what benefits your life positively and places you in a ‘nice’-space, it should be easier to let go of those things which don’t; or at least to loosen you attachment to, and the level of significance you attribute to, certain things.
Remember that you choose to hold onto something when it serves a purpose in your life. Only you can determine if the qualities of that purpose and the impact it has upon your life benefits you in the long-term on a human level.
By ‘human level’ I mean that sometimes when you don’t have much / are at rock-bottom, you realize how blessed you are with the simple things which you do have in life. If you lose your job which you placed much significance on, for instance, you come to realize that who you inherently are is not dependent upon the work you did, or upon what others thought of you in your position regardless of how much in others’ esteem you may have been held.
If an illness befalls you, or if you’re involved in an accident and lose a limb; you’re still the same person. Your capabilities may shift, yet your value and your lovability remains. And under such circumstances you may even develop abilities of previously-latent potentials.
Things change. Life changes. The superficial attributions of what society considers to be ‘valuable’ fluctuate from moment to moment, and may even be dependent on what is ‘fashionable’ at a specific time. Your genuine worth and value always remains.
The more often you choose to let go of / reduce the value of non-beneficial elements, the easier it is to do. Your thoughts, attitudes and behaviors sculpt neural pathways in your mind. When you repeat something often enough (for instance, a thought or an action), it becomes easier and easier for your mind to identify with and a pattern is developed. These dominant patterns become your go-to responses in situations.
Why not nurture your go-to-response to being that of letting-go of that which doesn’t impact your life to genuine happiness and joy 😌
Don’t wait on the ‘special’ moments; your every ‘now’ moment is a special moment; choose to make it so, and so will it be 😌
Choose wisely. Let go, breathe, flow free, smile 😌