Dance And Thrive With Each Other:

Dance And Thrive With Each Other:

Your feelings, just like your thoughts, are a choice. You wield power over them, by your chosen perspectives, attention and attitudes.

Complement, co-create, evolve, grow, transform, support, play, dance and thrive together/with each other; or compete with and engage in mind games and power struggles against each other, resultantly dwelling in insecurities due to misaligned perceptions…

It’s simply and solely a matter of what you choose and what you focus upon.

If you feel emasculated, simply by me being me, and by you being you… You have a choice: 1) Step up, empower yourself; or 2) Step out, enjoy yourself.

HappyWise: Sharmilla

22/11/2019

God: My Life-Partner

God: My Life-Partner

Am I looking for marriage? Nope.

Am I looking for authentic connection? Yip, definitely!

What happens if I don’t find authentic connection with a man? I still win! I continue happily, blessedly walking my path with God as my Life-Partner, as I’ve always done…

(Do I think that God has authentic Divine connection with a man, in store for me? Yes, for sure!😉)

Let the basis be true connection, first and foremost, and then let marriage follow, if so be it. Then too, let it be rather a “celebration and declaration of the Sacred Union of togetherness, based upon freedom and mutual evolution”, rather than a “contract of stagnant obligations”.

A relationship-basis on a primary want/need for the ‘idea’ of “marriage”, as opposed to a genuine sacred spiritual foundation of heart-mind-body-soul-connection, just isn’t a turn-on for me 💕🌀💚

HappyWise: Sharmilla

04/11/2019

Surrender, Fly Free To Succeed

Surrender, Fly Free To Succeed

Control may be a positive quality when it comes to discipline, responsibility, focus and accountability, for instance. It may oftentimes be the fuel behind your perseverance and successes in life. Yet, have you ever noticed the difference in the quality of your feelings between achieving a goal:

When you’ve been in a surrendered and trusting state and space

As opposed to:

• When you’ve been in an anxiety-filled, rigid and controlling state and space?

Does there seem to be a distinct difference in the quality of each?

Controlling Your Way To Success:

How does aiming to be in control all of the time, make you feel? Does it relax you? Does it make you feel like you’re conquering the world in an ordered, prepared and sequential way?

Does it stress you out? Does it leave you feeling like you’re living on-edge?

A fact of life is that we cannot control everything. It’s in the nature of things to be changing.

As much as one may succeed at controlling a very large portion of his / her life, one still cannot predict absolutely everything. A reasonably large portion of life is unknown – dependent upon various factors aside from oneself.

What happens then, when you encounter something that’s beyond your control? How do you feel? How do you react? Do you clamor to make sense of things and to restore ‘order’ and ‘control’ as you know it? Or, are you able to easily accept, adapt and go with the flow?

Surrendering Your Way To Success:

There’s great strength and power in intentionally choosing to surrender. It calls for deep trust – in yourself, in the Universe.

Surrender is one of the most amazing gifts you will ever bestow on yourself.

Allowing you to be in the moment, to live fully and wholly, and to experience life from a space and state of freedom, joy and relief – surrender is being at one with Divine Grace.

Living from a place of surrender will ensure that you always succeed – for from such a place of trust and faith, all is and always will be well. You know, for a fact, that you will always be Divinely Guided.

As an added bonus, you – in wisdom – allow yourself the opportunity to live your life in a continual state of ease and bliss, minus having to be perfect or to have all be perfect. Thriving from a feeling-space of ease and bliss will surely attract greater quantities and qualities of the same to you, as you gently perfect the art of surrendering…

HappyWise: Sharmilla 12/06/2018

Trust Yourself

How often do you find yourself looking to others for opinions, feedback, reassurance, or even approval on your life? Does it sometimes even occur indirectly when you don’t necessarily ask directly – such as by looking for and noting body-language, eye-contact and other reactionary clues as indicators of how you may have been received / perceived? This is perfectly okay and is a normal part of human relationship interactions. However, do you perhaps place more value and trust in what another thinks of you, than you do in yourself? Your Most Valuable Feedback Mechanism is you.

The Value of Your Source-Inspired Thoughts:

Your first and foremost source of feedback regarding anything in your life is you, yourself.

As an extension of infinite Source energy, you hold within your being an endless vastness of knowledge, insight, solutions, answers and inspiration. The magnificence of the resources in your personal domain is phenomenal.

Quieting your mind and relaxing your body while traveling within in openness and receptivity allows you, through your Higher Self, to access thoughts aligned to Infinite Divine Intelligence.

Together with your feelings / intuition, the observations and understandings you receive through your quieted mind is one of your most credible sources of resolution, breakthrough, momentum and advancement.

The Value of Your Feelings:

Regardless of what anyone may have told you, regardless of what you may have heard, regardless of how you may have been judged, regardless of how you may judge yourself – know that your feelings are a gift.

There is no clearer or more precise indicator of your wellbeing than the feedback you receive from your feelings.

Whenever you feel something, particularly strongly so, your Higher Self is communicating with you on a most intimate level. Give attention to your feelings like you would to an intriguing lover.

Whether you’re being true to yourself or not comes through by the way you feel. Whether you’re loving yourself / valuing yourself / honoring yourself as you rightly should be or not, is indicated by your feelings.

When you’re in alignment with your true self, you experience feelings of happiness, peace and calm. Such a feeling-state is natural and is divinely intended. Feelings of unease, discomfort, sadness, etc. are simply indicators that you may not be honoring your true self.

In awareness of your feelings, you have the option to consciously examine the cause(s) of the way you feel. This allows you to actively make choices geared toward raising your vibration to your natural state of peace, calm and bliss.

In increasingly honoring your thoughts and feelings from a level of your true, Higher Self, your trust in yourself will evolve to a level of surpassing your need for placing the opinions of any other above yourself.

Trusting in yourself is simply placing trust and faith in a Divine Super-Consciousness, which you verily are an integral part of.

HappyWise: Sharmilla 02/06/2018

Flow With the Highs and the Lows

Ups and downs, highs and lows, ‘good’ and ‘bad’, ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ – all comprise some of the amazing richness of life. You may love for your experiences to be solely one-sided, skewed toward the wonderful and the joyous, yes. Yet, how then would you know what’s ‘wonderful’ and what’s ‘joyous’ unless you’ve also experienced its opposite? Trust and rest in the knowledge that there’s a place and a purpose in your life for the lows, just as much as for the highs.

Flowing With The Contrasts:

Contrast is a natural and a vital part of the human experience. It allows you to identify and to sort that which you like from that which you don’t. It also provides you an opportunity for experiencing and living your life in all of it’s vibrant diversity.

Flowing with, rather than resisting, the assorted realities of life, will ensure that you walk your path gracefully and purposefully.

Remember that ‘experiencing’ doesn’t entail or necessitate becoming ‘stuck’ or embroiled in a situation or experience. It simply means being aware of, acknowledging, doing what needs to be done if so required, and moving along… Flowing…

Flourishing Unhindered:

The contrast of the ‘goods’ from the ‘not-so-goods’ or downright painful and challenging, affords you the freedom not only for identifying your preferences, but also for then choosing to hone your attention and focus upon your own favored choices.

So, in any experience, it is primarily by your own perceptions, outlooks, focus of attention, decisions and choices that your life is shaped.

Your choices and focal-points of awareness and attention become your magnets of attraction for drawing you toward your future experiences; and similarly for drawing your future experiences toward you.

HappyWise: Sharmilla 26/05/2018

Trust in the Flow

All is in Order. Perfect Order. Flowing with the current in trust, faith and relaxation is possibly one of the kindest, most loving things you can do for yourself. This means flowing always toward your greatest wellbeing and joy, regardless of the circumstances around you / the issues you may be facing. It means finding the best in every situation and flowing with the stream of those thoughts, ideas, feelings and actions that carry you toward the light and the blessings.

• All is in Perfect Order:

Think about it for a moment… How much that happens is out of your control – in your own life, in society, in the world? Lots, right? And yet how much of your life has worked out quite amazingly well for you, notwithstanding all that’s happened and may be happening, would you say?

So long as you continue to choose your thoughts for your highest wellbeing and guide yourself constantly toward reaching for feelings of happiness and peace, all will always be well.

• Finding the Best in Every Situation:

Life is change. One of the constants is your inherent value as a human being.

Whatever may be going on, the potential for its opposite is also there. Duality is a natural part of life.

In every situation which you find challenging, there’s always a solution. It will come to you easiest when you bring into your awareness the possibility of a solution existing. Then simply relax in trust and faith, allowing yourself to be open to receiving.

Life is movement. Going with the flow of the movement is natural, easier and uses immensely less energy than pushing against the flow.

Know that you’re Guided always by Source / God / the Universe. Trust in the flow. Glide along your path in lightness and happiness of being…

Sharmilla 31/03/2018

You Control Your Energy

“Energy cannot be created or destroyed”: remember this ‘First Law of Thermodynamics’ (Albert Einstein)? It’s truly amazingly comforting, is it not? It goes on to state, “Energy can only be transferred or changed from one form to another”. Bottom-line is that energy is always available. It comes down to what you choose to do with it. The power to empower yourself by your choices and decisions is in your hands!

• Energy Cannot Be Created or Destroyed:

Think about the sun, for example. It’s always shining gloriously bright. Even at midnight; and yes, even on the cloudiest, foggiest wintry day. It’s just that due to the earth’s rotating motion, we seemingly experience the sun as ‘setting’, ‘rising’, or as having disappeared. The sun is constantly and everlastingly beaming radiantly. So while it appears ‘dark’ at one location, it’s fantastically bright at another location.

Energy is energy. Universal Source energy is always there; abundantly, freely and equally available to all. There’s always more magnificence to what we as humans are able to perceive, experience or see with our eyes at any specific point in time. This is a gift indeed, as light is perpetual and eternal; while ‘darkness’ is merely the absence of light which still exists.

• Your Power to Transform:

If you happen to think of yourself, or any situation in your life, considering the fact that everything is just energy and energy is available bountifully… Isn’t it wonderful to know that within you is an immense natural force and potential to instantaneously transform any state of being from one to another?

You can transform boredom instantly, for example, into motivation and excitement. All you would have to do is change your thoughts. As soon as you think of something new and different to do, your energy of boredom and stagnation triggers to inspiration and action.

Or you can similarly catalyze a state of worry to a state of calm trust and contentment wherein you know that all is okay and in order, simply by choosing your thoughts differently. By the very simple action of altering your thoughts to serve the best in yourself and that which you desire, you literally and physically change the chemical composition of every cell of your being, thereby transforming your energy.

By transforming your energy, you re-direct your life-path.

In each moment, use your God-graced gift to wield your thoughts for your ultimate purpose and outcome.

Sharmilla 24/03/2018

Stop Waiting, Start Living!

Stop Waiting, Start Living!

Ever consider how much time you spend ‘waiting’ on something or someone? Yet surely what’s going to happen will happen? So why procrastinate with your life in anticipation, doubt, worry, anxiety, uncertainty? Make a wise simple choice: embrace each moment of your life with purpose and focus, living every moment fully and joyfully, doing what brings you happiness! And while you’re ‘living’, those awaited ‘happenings’ will spontaneously transpire.

Embrace Each Moment of Your Life with Purpose:

A moment is but an instant in your life, true. Yet each and every moment adds up. Does waiting and obsessing on an outcome make the awaited happen sooner? Nope. In fact, it possibly makes the time appear more drawn-out and burdensome, prolonging your agony.

Dedicating yourself to happy, fulfilling and purposeful activities, however, will ensure calmness of your being and a natural flow with the Universe. Once you’ve achieved clarity of your outcome, actioned your intentions and done what’s needed to be done, let it go. The rest will follow without any action and stressing on your part.

Continue living your life fully, on purpose and with purpose. There is much loving, experiencing, playing and working to be done in the moment, in now. It requires your presence, your participation, your energy!

You will find that creating and living purposefully is a part of the bigger-picture of joyously and inevitably manifesting that which you may be waiting on.

Embrace Each Moment of Your Life with Focus:

Focus not on what you don’t yet have (the ‘awaited’); focus upon what you do have. Your life is already brimming with blessings and love (it is!). Recognize the blessings for that which they are; savor the fruit in gratitude and appreciation.

You will find that while you’re living from a space of fulfilment and joy in embracing your current abundance, more will flow – naturally, freely, bountifully.

Turn your attention happily and effortlessly toward trust, faith, knowingness. Your attitude of being cheerfully focused on each present moment will stimulate an energy of positivity around and within you.

Consciously decide to live each moment of your life with purpose and focus; be assured that goodness, happiness and fulfilment will ripple and flow. The world is full of goodness and bliss, just ‘waiting’ on your taking 😌

Sharmilla  21/12/2017

Wisdom in Letting Go

Do you long to live and thrive in happiness more often? What’s holding you back? Possibly some of the things which you have in your life, rather than things you don’t have? By assessing your current space and determining your ‘nice’-space / your optimal-space, you have the power to choose whether letting go will feed your happiness.

  • Assess your Current Space:

What sorts of thoughts, feelings, situations and experiences are you predominantly keeping for company these days?

Freedom, lightness, joy, living-in-the-moment? A passion for life? A sense of fulfilment, peace and calm? Love, trust, faith, inner quiet, knowingness and serenity? Are you primarily maintaining these thoughts, feelings and outlooks regardless of the circumstances, situations and experiences which come your way?

Or might you perhaps be leaning primarily toward anxiety, fear, anger, disappointment, sadness, doubt, envy, jealousy? Rejection? Hurt? Pain? Doubt? Uncertainty? Betrayal? Judgement? Worthlessness? Guilt?

Are you perhaps being weighed down by the burden of a secret? Insecurity? Loneliness? Tension? Stress? A need to be perfect? The approval of another? Responsibility that isn’t yours to bear? Being caged in preconceptions? Drama? A mistake made? The past? The future (in your ‘waiting’)?

Your status? Your position? Your title? Your salary?

Are you holding on to a gorgeous pair of shoes that pinch at your little-toe with every step you take? A luxurious coat which you haven’t worn in years ‘cos there hasn’t been a ‘special’ enough occasion to wear it to yet?

  • Determine your ‘Nice’-Space:

With contemplation and an enhanced awareness of the types of thoughts and feelings you predominantly experience, comes your power to choose what type of space you would actually like to be in.

Your thoughts may be random and may also often be based upon subconscious influences, true. Yet it is you who ultimately commands the power and free-will choice of what you hold on to and what you let go of on a conscious level.

By nature’s law, that which you choose to focus on is usually strengthened, while that which you diminish significance toward slackens its power to influence you.

What do you want to strengthen and grow in your life? Your happiness and your freedom? Perhaps your trust and your faith? Peace and calm? If so, that’s where you would do best focusing your attention.

Let the worry and anxiety go; ease up on the doubt (particularly on the self-doubt); and stay clear of the path of being swept up in, or contributing to, chaos and clutter.

  • Choose to Let Go:

Keep in mind that situations and circumstances can change in an instant by factors either within or beyond your control – both whether you choose to hold on to things or whether you choose to let go.

Yet now that you know what benefits your life positively and places you in a ‘nice’-space, it should be easier to let go of those things which don’t; or at least to loosen you attachment to, and the level of significance you attribute to, certain things.

Remember that you choose to hold onto something when it serves a purpose in your life. Only you can determine if the qualities of that purpose and the impact it has upon your life benefits you in the long-term on a human level.

By ‘human level’ I mean that sometimes when you don’t have much / are at rock-bottom, you realize how blessed you are with the simple things which you do have in life. If you lose your job which you placed much significance on, for instance, you come to realize that who you inherently are is not dependent upon the work you did, or upon what others thought of you in your position regardless of how much in others’ esteem you may have been held.

If an illness befalls you, or if you’re involved in an accident and lose a limb; you’re still the same person. Your capabilities may shift, yet your value and your lovability remains. And under such circumstances you may even develop abilities of previously-latent potentials.

Things change. Life changes. The superficial attributions of what society considers to be ‘valuable’ fluctuate from moment to moment, and may even be dependent on what is ‘fashionable’ at a specific time. Your genuine worth and value always remains.

The more often you choose to let go of / reduce the value of non-beneficial elements, the easier it is to do. Your thoughts, attitudes and behaviors sculpt neural pathways in your mind. When you repeat something often enough (for instance, a thought or an action), it becomes easier and easier for your mind to identify with and a pattern is developed. These dominant patterns become your go-to responses in situations.

Why not nurture your go-to-response to being that of letting-go of that which doesn’t impact your life to genuine happiness and joy 😌

Don’t wait on the ‘special’ moments; your every ‘now’ moment is a special moment; choose to make it so, and so will it be 😌

Choose wisely. Let go, breathe, flow free, smile 😌

Sharmilla  01/12/2017

3 Valuably Amazing Things that You Already Have to Be Happy

It’s true, happiness is a subjective thing. What makes another happy may not necessarily make you happy. Yet, your happiness is truly not dependent on any other. Your perspective, your attitude and your action-choices are 3 valuably amazing things that you already have to be happy…

  1. Your Perspective

Have you ever noticed how different things look when you’re standing at a point, or even driving from one point to another; as opposed to the way they look when you scan the picture from an aeroplane or from the vantage point of a high building?

This is just a matter of perspective. From one point, your vision is somewhat limited; from the other, your vision is vastly expanded.

When you’re engulfed in a situation or an experience which doesn’t feel good, gently remind yourself that you’re in a limited-perspective space.

Regardless of what’s going on or how much you may be able to see, know that there’s a bigger picture and more at work than you may be aware of at a certain point in time. And even though all you may see is the dark gloomy clouds, the magnificent sun surely is there!

Choose a perspective which brings you peace and happiness. Trust. Surely from this, light will flow.

  1. Your Attitude

Aaaaah yes, the amazing power of your thoughts! Why not choose to use them wisely, for your own maximum wellbeing and happiness?!

It’s not easy to control your thoughts, I agree; particularly when circumstances challenge. Yet, have you ever considered that you don’t have to control them? Let yourself off the hook, breathe deeeep and eeeasy. Allow your thoughts to flow; while you merely direct them toward a happier outlook and chosen outcome for yourself.

Creating more and deeper levels of happiness and contentment in your life doesn’t have to be an instant thing. Embrace it for what it is – a process of gradual, conscious transformation.

With an attitude of happiness, what quality of experiences will follow, do you think?

  1. Your Action-Choices

Seeing things with an expanded awareness (your perspective) and thinking more positively (your attitude) over a sustained period of time, should have the automatic and joyous side-effect of generating different actions.

The action-choices you make are then but the gifts of your evolved perspective and attitude. And when your action-choices change, know for certain that your experiences will change!

How amazingly and wonderfully powerful is it to know for a fact that you already possess the primary things that you need to be happy?! 😌

Sharmilla 19/11/2017

3 Simply Wicked Reasons to Choose to Be Happy

We all want to be happy. Why? ‘Cos it feels sooOooo damn good. Being in happiness is your free choice. Choosing to be happy is wickedly and naughtily wise because: it revs your allure; it boosts your attraction-factor; it heightens your senses and sensuality…

  1. It revs your allure:

Ever notice how people seem to be intrigued by you when you’re in a state of blissful peace (a.k.a. happy) and they don’t know what’s going on? It’s almost as if they need a reason for you seemingly floating on heavenly clouds of happy-vapor.

And when you can’t ‘justify’ your mood to them, you become even more of a figure of mystique. Hehehehe, keep smiling and keep them wondering – especially if there’s no specific reason for you feeling good, other than your decision to be and feel so!

  1. It boosts your attraction-factor:

Being happy, content and at peace revs up your life-hormones and frees up your creative energy. Most healthy people, either at a conscious or subconscious level, are attracted to the pulsating free-flowing life-energy which is all of creation.

Go on – laugh, dance, play; get creative in whatsoever plain or crazy way you choose!

  1. It heightens your senses and sensuality:

Feeling happy is about exploring and discovering the gifts, blessings and opportunities in every situation and circumstance.

Being in a space of gratitude for all that is, amplifies your awareness; which in turn has a direct correlation with heightening your senses.

And even more exciting is that genuine contented bliss has the promise of enduring beyond a ‘happy’ mind-blowing 15 second orgasm. Aaaaaah, both do come down to feeling good though! 😌

Choose happiness. For in happiness is wisdom, in wisdom is happiness. And the fulfillment of your desires is in your control.

Sharmilla 19/11/2017